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Offline YoungAdult ✔️

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Young Adult - Pregnancy Question
« on: May 11, 2018, 11:17:49 AM »
Hello there to those who still use this app and the forum! My name is thalia and I’m a 20 year old going into 21 this year. For a while now, i’ve been having these thoughts about pregnancy and motherhood. Has any of you had this happened to you were you deep down wish to be pregnant and have a kid even though you understand you’re still young, not financially stable yet etc. You see i have a baby brother (second olderst out of 4kids), my formal boyfriend has nephews and nieces and somehow im usually surrounded or stuck with babies/babysitting. This annoys me obviously because as a young adult i want to enjoy the peace and quiet that all adults tell you to take advantage of but i barely get that actually. Somehow even annoyed i cant help but think, when would i have my own? I know this is probably consider “baby fever” but i think is a bit more serious than that, im not sure really, that is why i wanted the opinion of other fellow women on the matter. If this help in your judgement about me, i consider and been told by others an “old soul”. im not a person that goes to parties, nor likes alcohol or loud music etc. my views on things can be a bit different from your typical 20year old. Im focus on my career and on being independent. Thank you in advance and i would appreciate your input.

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Re: Young Adult - Pregnancy Question
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2018, 06:09:06 AM »
Mm... i don't think it's weird, I mean some people know they want to have kids earlier than others. What's important is to know if you are ready to have one, and act accordingly.
I have thought about things like that and I'm 22. So I know what you mean and I'm also an old soul. Sometimes I imagine myself pregnant and get excited, or with a tiny little baby in my arms and love it. But I know I love those thoughts because it's not happening now, as I think of it logically it would be an awful idea for me to have a baby right now. And I just shrug off the feeling.

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Re: Young Adult - Pregnancy Question
« Reply #2 on: August 15, 2018, 02:47:30 PM »
Completely normal. Everyone goes at their own pace. I am 22, partner is 22. We have been together 5 1/2 years and have been trying for 3 years were due to start ivf in two weeks. We were young when we started trying and weren’t in the best situation but since have done everything to better ourselves. I completed my degree and we are both at better jobs then previous with more money coming in and saving to buy our own home. Trying for a baby gives you determination to grow up but at the same time not everyone has the difficulties we have had such as my friend fell pregnant two days after coming off contraception. Definitely something you need to be certain about first and maybe have a discussion with your partner as I was ready to start trying about a year before my partner said he was ready. Also remember it is a very emotional journal and you. need to be comfortable and open with your partner.

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Re: Young Adult - Pregnancy Question
« Reply #3 on: August 16, 2018, 05:06:03 PM »
I’m 22- I have those thoughts as well, I would love to be a mother! But I’m not financially ready even though I feel I may be emotionally ready. I just snap myself out of it and really think of the realities of having a child. Eg, I love to go out and socialise but that would be limited due to having a baby.

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Re: Young Adult - Pregnancy Question
« Reply #4 on: August 21, 2018, 02:31:26 AM »
I agree you have to think of all sides to it before making the decision. For me I don’t drink or smoke or go out on the town. I love my godson and my social life is usually spending the day with him and my best friend. Both my godson and his older sister call me auntie and I love it. I helped a lot with my little brother who is 17 years younger then me. My partner has already gave up his football ticket because he says he’d rather be with me weather we’re in the house or watch it in the pub. I never asked him too as I said I was fine with him having that time with his friends the only thing he says is he wants the 2 hours a week on his console which he plays in a vertual league. This is late at night so baby would be asleep anyway. I will continue to have my social life same as I do now as we did it the same when my godson was born only difference is instead of in the house or going for a coffee some times it will be soft play.