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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #15 on: September 08, 2018, 10:15:07 am »

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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #16 on: September 09, 2018, 07:43:23 am »
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #17 on: September 09, 2018, 07:56:50 am »
I swear to god leave him right now. What a f**king a**hole. You don't deserve this! If he actually needs his mum to tell him to talk to you, he's way to immature.
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #18 on: September 09, 2018, 01:16:32 pm »
Long time no see, G123!!
And well, she's the best one to give this advice, she was in denial just like you and then she understood, left him, and is way happier now. You need some time to understand the truth, but you'll get there, you're a smart girl.
Denial is normal, happens to yhe best of us. We believe that the "high" we get from the good times outstands the lows. And this can be true in healthy relationships which is not the case. This is completely unhealthy and he's twisting your vision of love into this weird absent/present thing.
On the other hand, in the case of the girl it's better to talk to your bf about it and not the girl, your problems are better kept private from others.

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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #20 on: September 09, 2018, 11:56:05 pm »
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #23 on: September 14, 2018, 08:13:36 pm »
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #24 on: September 14, 2018, 08:25:40 pm »
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #25 on: September 14, 2018, 08:32:11 pm »
I know I should. I want to. But how can one person mean everything to you for 10/11 months and then nothing in a matter of two weeks of being away...
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #26 on: September 14, 2018, 09:08:32 pm »
Listen, 10/11 months is nothing in the grand scheme of plans. There are other people going through the same thing who have known the other person for years, so it shouldn't be a shocker. We are all in denial, that's all.
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #27 on: September 15, 2018, 01:33:07 am »
Listen, 10/11 months is nothing in the grand scheme of plans. There are other people going through the same thing who have known the other person for years, so it shouldn't be a shocker. We are all in denial, that's all.
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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #28 on: September 16, 2018, 09:36:31 am »
Sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. If he is treating you like this for this long, it probably won't change. If you don't have trust or communication in a relationship you have nothing really. If I were you I'd get out of the relationship. Good luck

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Re: Is it one of his phases or is he being serious?
« Reply #29 on: September 16, 2018, 12:18:36 pm »
Trust me when i say 10/11 months is nothing time wise. Plus you are SO young!! Peope who have children together (probably the biggest thing you can share with someone) have broken up, so why can't you? You're not even 18 yet. My first bf and I lasted 3 years, and when it ended I thought exactly that, but when it's unhealthy, the breakup becomes relieving after some time. He's being a complete a-hole to you. you're going through a difficult situation and he can't even reply to you? you're getting all the signals pretty early. You should let it go for your health and happiness. About the other guys, pay them no mind.
I hope you listen to all of us. No one in this comment section has thought you should stay with him, some of us are grownups who have gone through breakups, have been/seen others in unhealthy relationships, some are girls your age, who can understand how you feel. Just end it.