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How many times should you have sex with your partner
« on: November 28, 2018, 07:21:35 pm »
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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #1 on: November 29, 2018, 12:40:21 am »

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #2 on: November 29, 2018, 04:19:51 am »
One or twice a week, is healthy but awfully long and ranty side note:

I only put once or twice because there was no 'whenever you want to' option. I don't think there's such thing as obligation when it comes to sex with your bf/gf. The only thing you 'should' do is WANT to give yourself to them.

If your partner wants sex, (let me know if you disagree with me)they should put in the work to stimulate their partner in the event that thy aren't receptive whether it be tiredness or maybe not in the right head space.
And if the answer is still no, boundaries and consideration! Accepting your partner has other needs over sex is important as is acknowledging your partner does have sexual needs, find middle ground, as we know in a relationship you're still your own person.

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #3 on: November 29, 2018, 10:37:32 am »
One or twice a week, is healthy but awfully long and ranty side note:

I only put once or twice because there was no 'whenever you want to' option. I don't think there's such thing as obligation when it comes to sex with your bf/gf. The only thing you 'should' do is WANT to give yourself to them.

If your partner wants sex, (let me know if you disagree with me)they should put in the work to stimulate their partner in the event that thy aren't receptive whether it be tiredness or maybe not in the right head space.
And if the answer is still no, boundaries and consideration! Accepting your partner has other needs over sex is important as is acknowledging your partner does have sexual needs, find middle ground, as we know in a relationship you're still your own person.

Agree 100% with this. I think you probably are feeling pressured because many people say they have sex quite often. Don't mind them as every relationship is different. You just need to have sex as much as you both want to.

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #5 on: December 01, 2018, 10:59:03 am »

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #7 on: December 02, 2018, 08:01:32 am »

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #8 on: December 02, 2018, 10:53:02 am »

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #9 on: December 02, 2018, 01:19:31 pm »
In the end PeriodStuff was (imo) kinda concerned about how you approach sex. The way you talked about it in your poll feels like you think it's an obligation instead of an activity you do for fun/love/pleasure. Like you should do it because you're in college and the experience and whatever. Also the way you said "I'm 21 so for my age group it is problematic." I'm actually 23, have been in long lasting relationships and to me, I just don't talk to others about their sex life because then I'd start comparing. With my first one, he did and actually pressured me for a year until I had sex with him (He was my first bf and I was a virgin. Needless to say awful experience ). My second one, is private and doesn't share any details, or gets pressured from anyone. I can assure you my second (and actual) relationship is a lot healthier because of that. We do us and that makes us happy. And truth is I feel that you may be comparing your sex life to others, because you kinda sound just like my ex did back in the days.

In the end, we are (at least I am) just a bit concerned because this poll, although it's meant to be "general" somehow portrays how you think. And I feel you you got defensive when PeriodStuff commented. So that's why we took it literal, too. And we're trying to help here, that's all!

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #10 on: December 03, 2018, 12:40:49 am »
In the end PeriodStuff was (imo) kinda concerned about how you approach sex. The way you talked about it in your poll feels like you think it's an obligation instead of an activity you do for fun/love/pleasure. Like you should do it because you're in college and the experience and whatever. Also the way you said "I'm 21 so for my age group it is problematic." I'm actually 23, have been in long lasting relationships and to me, I just don't talk to others about their sex life because then I'd start comparing. With my first one, he did and actually pressured me for a year until I had sex with him (He was my first bf and I was a virgin. Needless to say awful experience ). My second one, is private and doesn't share any details, or gets pressured from anyone. I can assure you my second (and actual) relationship is a lot healthier because of that. We do us and that makes us happy. And truth is I feel that you may be comparing your sex life to others, because you kinda sound just like my ex did back in the days.

In the end, we are (at least I am) just a bit concerned because this poll, although it's meant to be "general" somehow portrays how you think. And I feel you you got defensive when PeriodStuff commented. So that's why we took it literal, too. And we're trying to help here, that's all!



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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #11 on: December 04, 2018, 11:19:12 pm »
Always glad to help!

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Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« Reply #12 on: December 05, 2018, 12:20:27 am »