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Offline Corrina_1996

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Relationship Advice
« on: April 20, 2019, 06:04:00 PM »
I have been with this guys for 8 years. Since I was 15. (High school sweetheart). Of course every relationship has its ups and downs and both people are not perfect.
So back when we were together for 2 years (we were juniors in high school), there was this girl (we will call her B) who tried getting in between the relationship. She would call him her bf, flirt with him, and she would also tell him that if him and me would not make it as a couple, then he should date her instead. Take note that me and my boyfriend went to different high schools so I couldn’t be there when girls flirted with him. But he would tell me and not hide things from me. Worst part was that B was acting like she was my friend and we would chat on social media and she called me her bestie fooling around. And when I found out she was saying those things to my bf I got very furious and told my bf to stop talking to her. So he obviously did. (He was the one who told me she flirted with him).
So years later. Now I’m 23 and it’s been years since that had happened. My boyfriend made a new guy best friend (we will call him A) and turns out that A’s girlfriend is B! They both actually have a kid together. But the only problem I have now is that my boyfriend and B got close again. They play Fortnite together (with A too sometimes), they text sometimes and tweet. But A knows about what happened and why I don’t like his Gf.
I have confronted my bf about how much it makes me very uncomfortable that he is close to her. He told me he understands, but that B is a totally different person now, and that she’s with his best friend. B and A live together and have a kid. And they want my boyfriend to be the kid’s nino. So now there is going to be another reason for them to get closer. I told him his best friend is A not B. That there is no need to be close to B. He totally got what I meant but he said if he started acting distant and weird with B, then perhaps A would think it’s rude and weird he would act like that towards his gf B. Today he went to their house to Celebrate A’s and B’s daughter’s birthday because he should be there cause he is going to be the nino. I feel uncomfortable about it, even tho I know I should not. I probably should not make a big deal out of it but I cannot help but feel uncomfortable when he sees and talks to B. I dislike her so much and she wants to be cool with me but I already gave her a shot and she faked being my friend in the past. So I cannot trust her anymore.
What would you do in my shoes? Actually put yourself in my shoes and give it to me straight.

Offline LinkleBlue

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Re: Relationship Advice
« Reply #1 on: April 21, 2019, 06:59:03 AM »
Perhaps you could give her the benefit of the doubt. She has matured, this happened 8 years ago. On the other hand you may be right and she may still be a bad person. So how about reaching a middle point here? Maybe your bf should, just in case, hang out with her only in the presence of A. That way B can't even have the chance to try anything with him.
Btw I understand why it makes you uncomfortable, I think amyone would feel that way tbh.

Offline Corrina_1996

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Re: Relationship Advice
« Reply #2 on: April 21, 2019, 08:35:43 PM »
Yeah I agree. Thanks. I kinda started accepting that B is going to be around no matter what just cause she’s A’s girlfriend.  And my boyfriend is best friends with A.

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Re: Relationship Advice
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Offline KappaCactus

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« Reply #3 on: April 23, 2019, 07:07:23 AM »
Well people do change over the years and people mature. But if I was in the situation I wouldn’t really forgive her, but still be friends with her and keep a close eye on her.

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« Reply #4 on: April 23, 2019, 09:34:27 AM »
Well people do change over the years and people mature. But if I was in the situation I wouldn’t really forgive her, but still be friends with her and keep a close eye on her.

It was 8 years ago, of course she can forgive her. I don’t know if this is a teenager giving advice or what. LinkleBlue is right. She has matured, and especially the fact that she has a significant other and a child with him, I wouldn’t be too concerned with the relationship she has with your bf, but if  you’re still self-conscious about it, you can tell your bf not to be with her alone like LinkleBlue said. Hope this helps!
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