So it’s a long distance relationship so you don’t actually see her as such, only on social media?
You really just need to ignore it. She enjoys the reaction it gets, if you don’t react it’s not as satisfying for her.

 When someone is an arsehole like this you need to understand that bullies are usually bullied. If anything you should feel sorry for her as she must have a miserable life if this is the crap she does to make herself feel better. She has a low self esteem and bringing people down is a way to make her feel better. (If people point out flaws in others it’s usually what they don’t like in themselves).

She’s intimidated by you, maybe you’re smarter, prettier, have her brothers attention. Whatever it is you need to get the strength from not taking it personal, taking a step back and realizing it’s not you. It’s her, inside she’s just a miserable person who takes it out on other people.

If you’re 19 you’re an adult? Do you work or go to school or what?

OP You say the questions aren’t open ended but you also invited us to comment saying “what do you think” and that’s the point isn’t it? To have a discussion, find out the “norm” if there is one?

Whether it was conscious or not you used the word “should” and that makes the discussion different. I think FlowerBomb and LinkleBlue both picked up the subtle difference of your wording too.

Anyway moving along It’s pretty normal to ask others how often they have sex especially if you’re with someone who’s sex drive is different.
If your partner wants it all the time and you don’t you can start to wonder if he’s sex mad or if there’s something wrong with yourself Or if it’s you who wants it more then you start to wonder if you’re the sex mad one or if there’s something wrong with him! (as stereotypically it’s usually the guy who wants it more!)

I remember as a teenager my mum saying something along the lines of “some times you just do it (have sex with your husband) just to make things easier” and at the time I told her “no way I’m not going to have sex if I don’t want to, my partner’s not going to make me!” And the partner I was with at the time never made me feel obliged but in the following relationship I understood what she was talking about, he never “made” me but having sex was less effort than putting up with someone cranky or sulky.
So yeah, When that’s what you’re dealing with you do want to know what’s “fair”. I have a friend who (after 20 plus years of marriage) basically sees sex as another chore. She works in retail all day, runs the household, raises the kids and the hubby wants sex every second day and she’s just exhausted and having sex is, well, just another job to be done.

As for me, My husband is turned on when I am so depending on the time of the month  I can be jumping him every day or second day or I can go a week without.

You mentioned that you are starting to seek out different types of porn, that’s common with porn addiction (any addiction) you’re craving that high and it works for a while but then you need “more”, more often and more shocking. I can imagine it’s good while it’s happening but after you feel guilty.

It’s not unusual you’re not responding sexually to your partner. You have an addiction and you have mastered making yourself orgasm. Orgasming to porn, a lot of it and to more demanding content.

You need to think of it like a drug or alcohol addiction. Being exposed to a lot of something you build up a tolerance, give someone else that same amount of drug and they’d die! Actually that’s exactly what can happen. Drug addicts have been known to go into rehab get clean, come out and shoot up the same amount as they used to and it kills them. They don’t have the same tolerance, had they had less they would’ve been ok (though as I mentioned before soon you need more and more often)

The point is it’s normal. Hang in there and you will get your sensations back you can learn to get pleasure with your partner it will just take time.

Also take the pressure off him and you and just accept that you probably won’t orgasm for a while. Enjoy the process rather than the finish line. Once the pressure is off trying to orgasm every one can relax and it will probably naturally happen.

Hearing you were exposed to pornography at such a young age also brings up questions for me. It’s illegal to expose a child to porn and is child abuse. so I do wonder how that came about and how it was allowed to continue.
*I don’t expect you to answer* I’m just mentioning it because usually if a child is exposed to something like that it’s often part of sexual abuse or grooming or perhaps neglect and those might be some more issues that you might want to work through with a therapist

I would think if you’ve got time for oral pleasure you’ve got time for sex

Hi. Just so you know you don’t have to “label” or “identify” as anything. It’s up to you if you want to. Sexuality is fluid and people might identify as one thing and later chose to identify in a different way.

The best way I've seen sexuality explained is the "FBI Model"

F - "feelings/fantasies"
B - "behavior"
I  - "identity"

Those 3 things are different and aren't necessarily the same. For example I have feelings and fantasies about women and men (bisexual) but because I'm in a committed relationship my behavior is "straight". I personally like to identify as bisexual (or pansexual) this is who I am proud to say I am and know that I'm attracted to and can be with either.

Another example is there are a lot of girls who have feelings and fantasies that are bisexual (eg enjoy watching lesbian porn) but their behavior and identity is straight. They like the fantasy but it's just that, a fantasy and they have no desire to take it any further.

Another example is some men who sleep with other men (behavior that is homosexual) but they would never identify as gay or even bisexual.

Identity is something you give yourself.

Anyway like I said the 3 can all be the same or some can be different AND it can also change.

Hope this makes things easier to understand.

By what you’ve said it seems to me that you’re bisexual but it’s up to you if you want to identify that way.