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Just for teens / Re: First time having sex
« on: December 14, 2018, 07:24:04 AM »
Mine was when I was 17, over a year ago now, and I was dating my boyfriend for 2 almost 3 years by that point and we decided to give it a try. The experience for me was decent but I remember it and cringe at it a bit. The worst part was he broke up with me a few months later and we only did it twice (our first time and once more). So it was a real kick in the gut tbh. But life goes on.

Relationships / Ever fallen for your best friend?
« on: December 06, 2018, 05:37:47 AM »
So basically I’m in a little bit of a dilemma and have been for a while regarding my feelings for my best guy friend and I don’t really know where to go from here. Really just wanted to see if anyone else has gone through this and can offer some advice on whether perusing anything is a good or bad idea in the long run.

 update: so I ended up replying and we spoke normally a bit and it was chill until he turned out to be a fxckboi asking for me to go to his place & whatnot to “have a break from studying” and I was like “nah bro if I need a break I’ll hang out w my fam”. That aint me. guys these days. :// And he was 20 btw (I’m 18).

Hey I’m having a little dilemma with what I should do. So I am in my final year of high school and it’s pretty stressful and my final exams are coming up in about 2 months time. I was previously in a relationship for 3 years up to the start of this year (January) so ik what it’s like to be in one. But there is this guy who has messaged me on Instagram saying hey (with a heart emoji). Ik it’s just a hey but like idk if I should spend my time starting to get to know this guy who seems like my type of person or if I should just focus solely on my studies. I also don’t want to come off as a bxtch for ignoring him. What do you think is the best thing to do? Not reply and focus on school or get to know the guy? Thank you in advance.

Just for teens / Re: I’m just done!
« on: July 16, 2018, 06:45:34 AM »
Do you talk to your best friend on the phone, in person or in text? If in text maybe try calling her when you are feeling down and if in calls or in person just get her when she is completely alone and just vent to her about how you are feeling and maybe she can give you some advice and offer help. If you are worried about her mum finding out they just ask her not to tell her mum about it because it’s confidential and personal.

I know things may be tough at the moment but you just have to push through. After all, you must go through the ugly to get to the good. I understand with the whole work stuff, there are some people at my work at the moment that can be quite rude towards me and i let it slide but sometimes you just have to stick up for yourself and make it known that you don’t tolerate it. For whatever reason these co workers are being jerks whether it’s outside of work or not, they should remain professional. If you can try and steer clear from them if you can’t then just stick up for yourself when they are being rude. You shouldn’t be made feeling like this for their rudeness. And if it continues then report them to your boss. If you enjoy the job then nothing should make you feel unhappy working there.

I hope I helped and just remember to keep fighting through and just appreciate the little things. Keep a journal. Write down one thing you are grateful for at the beginning of each day to get you in the right headspace.

Just for teens / Re: Overthinking and stuff
« on: July 16, 2018, 06:30:55 AM »
The best thing to do is be completely honest with them about how you are feeling and why. My best friend said as we were going through a tough time with our other friends that if you guys are really friends then they will help you through the ugly and still be there for you regardless. I am like you and I overthink a lot but you just have to think about what you voice to others, how you do it and whether it is rational or not. Try placing yourself in their shoes before voicing it out. If you choose to talk to them, remember to keep calm about it and be reasonable and understanding because they have perspectives too. I know this from experience and honestly it takes time and mistakes to learn how to deal with confrontation and with overthinking a lot.

Just for teens / Re: Yet another worry/problem I have
« on: July 16, 2018, 06:24:03 AM »
I had braces and got them off a year ago and honestly I know for me that no one really made fun of me but I do know that that’s not the case with everyone. For the first few days it will be really uncomfortable and you will hate how they look but eventually you will learn how to live with them and even if other people tease you about it just remember that at the end of it you will have nice straight teeth and that’s what counts. After all, nothing comes easy. Just be confident with them and you will be fine don’t be afraid to smile because you will look back on it and see the difference.

Just for teens / Re: Cant show affection
« on: July 16, 2018, 06:17:56 AM »
I know for me like I’m not a major affectionate person to my friends and family but when I’m a relationship I’m better. I just guess it’s what you are comfortable with. Also the I love you think I relate to too because I believe that when u tell someone that you love them that it’s from the heart so to say it it’s can be strange and overwhelming especially if you are ever feeling pressured in doing so. Just go with what you are comfortable with and if u feel comfortable showing affection or not it’s completely your prerogative

awww I’m glad it’s working out for you girlll!! and congrats on your new relationship :)))

I think maybe just have a conversation with your dad on what he thinks. However, I do think that no matter what it is your choice to date this Tristan guy or not and other people shouldn’t come between that but  by at least talking to your dad about it then he knows who it is and in the long run it will be better than you not talking to him about it as it might affect all  relationships involved. Idk if this has helped or has made it even more confusing but I know that with experience it’s best to be upfront at the beginning then confessing later down the track when the damage is done. I had dated a guy who was also suffering with a mental illness and I admit that it is hard trying to love someone who is not in a good place so if this Tristian guy is in a good place then that’s good but I guess just be conscious of the fact that all days may not be sunshine and rainbows. I hope I’m not stepping out of line or anything but this is my honest opinion and I hope that in some way I have helped you with your situation. Good luck!!!!

Relationships / Falling for my best friend
« on: April 01, 2018, 08:51:11 AM »
so long story short I’ve been single for about 4 months after a long term relationship and pretty much the past month, a friend of mine and I have been getting closer. Friends of ours have been noticing it and would make comments on it like “you guys are so cute” or “you should get together”. Before all of this I did start developing feelings for him as he would call me everyday and we would laugh and talk about deep and meaningful shit. I didn’t really think much of it until a mutural friend started asking us separately what we thought of each other and when she told me that she asked him about me and I told her that I felt so awkward because I didn’t want our relationship to be made awkward. She wanted to help the situation so she asks him to call me and talk to me and clear the air about it all and she gives me a heads up about it and my reaction to it was that I felt awkward and comfortable about it. I just felt that it wasn’t the right time. Anyway he and I spoke and in the end he told me that he had feelings for me but felt that because of everyone making comments and getting in the middle of it that it had made things harder to deal with. But he also said that if the friend never had pushed him into talking to me about it then he probably never would’ve and he doesn’t want to miss the chance of starting something possibly amazing. Problem? Well first of all I’m in my final year of school and I didn’t really wanna be distracted and I feel like I’m still trying to find myself after the end of my previous long term relationship. Also, the major reasons were that 1) we are in the same friend group (which consists of 5 people that’s including us) and 2) we are of different religions which makes it difficult for me because I want to get married one day and have children with the love of my life and I don’t want to fall for someone who I can’t even marry, if that makes sense. But at the same time I can’t help the way I feel about him. I feel like the more I try and stop it the more and more I like him. In the call I told him that I just wanted to focus on school right now and that if it’s going to happen then it will happen when it’s supposed to. But it’s just so conflicting and so confusing I just don’t know what to do from here on. Any advice? Ps I’m an orthodox Christian and he is Muslim if that helps at all?

Relationships / Re: heartbroken
« on: March 10, 2018, 06:10:38 AM »
Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who make you happy. It will distract you. When you do find yourself ever thinking about it and get upset, just fantasize about someone else (like the comment about said a dream guy). This will help you move on and can help you paint a picture of what qualities you want in a future partner that your ex may or may not have possessed. This really helped me get over my ex (we have been broken up for 3 months and dated for 3 years) and move on with life. Just focus on yourself and what you enjoy and the people around you and if destiny places someone in your path then it will happen.

I hope this helps. Good luck :))

Relationships / Re: Ex boyfriend and what to do
« on: February 08, 2018, 04:44:46 AM »
Thank you so so much everyone for your help and advice it means a lot :)) and I’ve been trying the daydreaming thing and it’s helped distract me and focus on what I look for in a future partner when the time is right. But again thank you so so so much everyone!!!

Relationships / Ex boyfriend and what to do
« on: February 03, 2018, 05:32:38 AM »
Hey so my ex and I broke up just under a month ago and recently I had gotten over the instant heart break. Then suddenly he messaged me saying he wants me back and I say no and he was saying that he regrets the break up and wants to try again but I turned him down. I felt really bad because I still do love him and I don’t want to hurt him but there is oo much history to try again in my opinion. I do miss him and the love we shared (we were together for 3 years). Ever since he messaged, along with other things, I’ve been upset because I want to have him in my life but I just can’t do it again and I don’t think being friends would work. I’ve just been feeling pretty upset and I don’t know if I should follow my broken heart try it again or listen to my brain and not. Any advice?

Just for teens / Re: What should I do?
« on: January 12, 2018, 07:35:41 AM »
Kittycat okie tysm :))

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