Also, remember he was in an abusive relationship based on what you describe, so it can be tough for him to get out emotionally at first. Honesty is always the best option, especially since he's your bff. If he's not interested try and stop getting together physically as it could hurt you giving you false hopes. And support him as a friend, he needs help detaching from her.

I understand. You keep the distractions coming until you don't need them! And you're welcome! I'm glad I could help!

Dedicate your time to discover yourself now! All your time is yours again. Try different activities and you'll see how good days happen again. It will take a while to , but you'll find yourself not thinking about him one day and realise the healing is starting. try distracting yourself in the meantime with your favorite hobbies

His cons are not something (I think) that anyone could tell you "yes break up! He's useless!" Because those are normal flaws that anyone could have. Personally I wouldn't take him waking up at that time as not wanting to see you. If he's demotivated it would be smart to try and find out why. Does he hate his job? Money problems? College problems?
I think you should do two things: make a list of things that you wouldn't want to have in a partner and must have's for a partner. Apart from that, help your bf with his demotivation, for that flaw is usually not a con, but an issue he may not be aware about. Help him find out. If that turns out to be him, then go to your list. Evaluate whether he's worth to you, do you really think you could find a better partner? Or is it just the heat of the moment?

Mm... maybe try teling them the truth nicely: "I'm sorry, but I need some time to heal from the relationship and unfortunately you guys were a part of it. I don't want you to take it the wrong way, but going to your house and spending time with you makes it harder for me to move on" or something of the sorts.
If they feel offended don't feel bad. It would be selfish not to understand you in this situation.

I don't think so. At least not yet. My ex's family did the same, but you need time to heal and for that, you need distance from all that is him, that includes his family. Besides, he could go home if he knows you're there and catch you by surprise. You don't have to block them from your life, but going to their house and being with them is gonna make the breakup harder for you!

I think you should just be honest with him. Tell him exactly what you told us: that you don't think this is healthy for you, and that you'd rather go back to being friends.  It seems it's still early in the "relationship", so I think you could save the friendship.

I think you should ask him if you want to! What do you have to lose?