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Bella you locked your post so no one can reply on it.

You said it's good for your self esteem the way you dress/look but if everyone is looking you up and down and rolling their eyes and "hating" you then how can that be good for your self esteem?

I'm going to guess that rather than your make up being "natural" and your clothes being "pretty" your look is more on the "sexy" side. So rather than feeling better about yourself because you're hiding a pimple and wearing nice clothes you feel better about yourself as you're getting sexual attention from boys.

To be honest if I saw someone with excessive make up and over dressed for the occasion I'd roll my eyes too as it just looks like you're trying too hard but that's first impressions so from there it would also depend on your personality as to if I'd want to get to know you more. If you were overly flirty and vying for male attention, trying too hard and being fake then yeah I wouldn't be interested.

Looks alone don't turn people off, as a first impression yes but from there if you're a genuine, nice person people see past that. (Good and bad looks)

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Relationships / Eating the booty continued
« on: March 08, 2017, 02:05:51 AM »
I didn't get to reply because it got locked!

I was just gunna say I'm hearing ya OP I've felt like that ever since I first saw human centipede! My husband's not as into it as me though, he keeps hiding the sewing kit

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Entertainment / Speaking of Homosexuality...
« on: March 05, 2017, 12:01:48 AM »
Did you hear that the new "Beauty and the Beast" movie with Emma Watson has a "gay moment" in it!

"LeFou, played by Josh Gad, will realise his feelings for the film’s antagonist Gaston (Luke Evans) – an attraction alluded to in the animated original"

That's pretty brave of Disney, good on them.
:-)

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Pregnancy / Nclucca
« on: November 16, 2016, 10:01:30 AM »
Nclucca I see you're back on here. Did I miss where you told us all the goss about how it went? Is there a post in here about it? You must be  home now I hope you're doing well.

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Relationships / Cheating
« on: November 04, 2016, 10:40:19 AM »
So on another post we were talking about could you forgive your partner for cheating.. (I couldn't find the post so started a new one)

What do you think in this situation.. My husband has a friend who has been married for about 4 years, he loves his wife and 2 small kids but she doesn't like having sex at all. (Doesn't really even like being that physical, cuddling and stuff.)
Like when they do have sex she's saying "are you nearly finished.."
They do have 2 kids though! But I'd say she would've been tracking ovulation and having sex only when she needed to.
I really feel for this guy, he's only in his early 30s it's so young to be stuck in a sexless marriage.
Anyway I said to my husband he needs to go get a massage with a happy ending once a month. He would actually get some physical contact and if he limited himself to a hand job I don't think that would be so bad. (Of course she would be horrified) anyway opinions?

Also before they met he had been sexually active (with plenty of women I'm sure) but she made him wait until they were married (I assume she was a virgin, she's religious)

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Just for teens / what are you grateful for?
« on: July 16, 2015, 02:36:16 AM »
Hey ya.
It's really easy to think of all the bad stuff in life so let's look at the good stuff!
What are you grateful for? What makes you happy and smile?

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Just for teens / Are you saying "yes" to sex?
« on: October 25, 2014, 02:06:22 AM »
Hi Everybody!
I just wanted to talk about "consent". When you consent to something you agree with it. You are giving your permission. When two people have sex they need to both consent to having it. If you don't consent it's sexual assault.

Laci Green on YouTube has an awesome clip that talks about how to ask for consent and how to give consent. It's easy and its just about communication.  (Eg.. "Do you like that?.. "Are you ok?".. Etc)

I really think everyone should check it out and more importantly get boys and your boyfriend to check it out. It will open up communication between the two of you and hopefully will avoid boyfriends pushing you into stuff you don't want to do. Remember just because you said yes you can still say no at any time. And just because you've had sex with a boyfriend before doesn't mean you have to again.

Please check out the clip (she also has other great stuff)

Lacigreen
WANNA HAVE SEX? (CONSENT 101)

http://youtu.be/TD2EooMhqRI

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Just for teens / Different view; struggling with sexuality
« on: September 06, 2014, 10:50:28 PM »
Info from kidshealth.org

"As people pass from childhood through the teen years and beyond, bodies develop and change. So do emotions and feelings.

Adolescence Is a Time of Change
During the teen years, the hormonal and physical changes of puberty lead to an awakening of sexual feelings. It's common to wonder and sometimes worry about new sexual feelings.

It takes time for many people to understand who they are and who they're becoming. Part of that involves having a greater understanding of their own sexual feelings and who they are attracted to.

What Is Sexual Orientation?
Sexual orientation is the emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction that a person feels toward another person. There are several types of sexual orientation. For example:

Heterosexual. People who are heterosexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex: Heterosexual males are attracted to females, and heterosexual females are attracted to males. Heterosexuals are sometimes called "straight."

Homosexual. People who are homosexual are romantically and physically attracted to people of the same sex: Females who are attracted to other females are lesbian; males who are attracted to other males are often known as gay. (The term gay is sometimes used to describe homosexual individuals of either sex.)

Bisexual. People who are bisexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of both sexes.

People who don't feel any sexual attraction and are not interested in sex at all are sometimes referred to as asexual. People who are asexual may not be interested in sex, but they still feel emotionally close to other people.

During the teen years, people often find themselves having sexual thoughts and attractions. For some, these feelings and thoughts can be intense — and seem confusing. That can be especially true for people who have romantic or sexual thoughts about someone who is the same sex they are. "What does that mean," they might think. "Am I gay?"

Being interested in someone of the same sex does not necessarily mean that a person is gay — just as being interested in someone of the opposite sex doesn't mean a person is straight. It's common for teens to be attracted to or have sexual thoughts about people of the same sex and the opposite sex. It's one way of sorting through emerging sexual feelings.

Some people might go beyond just thinking about it and experiment with sexual experiences with people of their own sex or of the opposite sex. These experiences, by themselves, do not necessarily mean that a person is gay or straight.

What Is LGBT?
You may see the letters "LGBT" or ("LGBTQ") used to describe sexual orientation. This abbreviation stands for "lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender" (or "lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning").

Transgender isn't really a sexual orientation — it's a gender identity. Gender is another word for male or female. Transgender people may have the body of one gender, but feel that they are the opposite gender, like they were born into the wrong type of body.

People who are transgender are often grouped in with lesbian and gay as a way to include people who don't feel they fit into the category of being "straight."

Do People Choose Their Sexual Orientation?
Why are some people straight and some people gay? There is no simple answer to that. Most medical experts, including those at the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the American Psychological Association (APA), believe that sexual orientation involves a complex mix of biology, psychology, and environmental factors. Scientists also believe a person's genes and inborn hormonal factors play an important role.

Most medical experts believe that, in general, sexual orientation is not something that a person voluntarily chooses. Instead, sexual orientation is just a natural part of who a person is.

There's nothing wrong about being LGBT. Still, not everyone believes that. These kinds of beliefs can make things difficult for LGBT teens.

What's It Like for LGBT Teens?
For many LGBT people, it can feel like everyone is expected to be straight. Because of this, some gay and lesbian teens may feel different from their friends when the heterosexual people around them start talking about romantic feelings, dating, and sex.

A 2012 survey by the Human Rights Campaign found that 92% of LGBT teens had heard negative things about being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender.

LGBT teens might feel like they have to pretend to feel things that they don't in order to fit in with their group, family, or community. They might feel they need to deny who they are or that they have to hide an important part of themselves.

Fears of prejudice, rejection, or bullying can lead people who aren't straight to keep their sexual orientation secret, even from friends and family who might support them.

Some gay or lesbian teens tell a few close friends and family members about their sexual orientation. This is often called "coming out." Many LGBT teens who come out are fully accepted by friends, families, and their communities. They feel comfortable about being attracted to someone of the same gender.

But not everyone has the same good support systems. Even though there is growing acceptance for LGBT people, many teens don't have adults they can talk to about sexual orientation. Some live in communities or families where being gay is not accepted or respected.

People who feel they need to hide who they are or who fear discrimination or violence can be at greater risk for emotional problems like anxiety and depression. Some LGBT teens without support systems can be at higher risk for dropping out of school, living on the streets, using alcohol and drugs, and trying to harm themselves.

Everyone has times when they worry about things like school, college, sports, or friends and fitting in. In addition to these common worries, LGBT teens have an extra layer of things to think about, like whether they have to hide who they are.

This doesn't happen to all gay teens, of course. Many gay and lesbian teens and their families have no more difficulties than anyone else.

The Importance of Talking
For people of all sexual orientations, learning about sex and relationships can be difficult. It can help to talk to someone about the confusing feelings that go with growing up — whether that someone is a parent or other family member, a close friend or sibling, or a school counselor.

It's not always easy to find somebody to talk to. But many people find that confiding in someone they trust (even if they're not completely sure how that person will react) turns out to be a positive experience.



In many communities, youth groups can provide opportunities for LGBT teens to talk to others who are facing similar issues. Psychologists, psychiatrists, family doctors, and trained counselors can help them cope — confidentially and privately — with the difficult feelings that go with their developing sexuality. They also help people find ways to deal with any peer pressure, harassment, and bullying they might face.

Whether gay, straight, bisexual, or just not sure, almost everyone has questions about physically maturing and about sexual health — like if certain body changes are "normal," what's the right way to behave, or how to avoid sexually transmitted infections (STIs). It's important to find a doctor, nurse, counselor, or other knowledgeable adult to be able to discuss these issues with.

Beliefs Are Changing
In the United States, and throughout much of the world, attitudes about sexual orientation have been changing. Being gay, for example, is getting to be less of a "big deal" than it used to be. Although not everyone is comfortable with the idea of sexual orientation differences, a Human Rights Campaign survey found that most LGBT teens are optimistic about the future."

http://m.kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/sexual_orientation.html?m=y#cat20015

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Just for teens / Kissing and asking a boy over
« on: August 29, 2014, 07:27:07 PM »
Hi everyone, I just got a PM but I'm not a fan of personal messages as I think people should get a variety of opinions so I want to put it out to get other people's ideas...

"Hi. Im 14 going into grade 9.
I just want to know how to kiss. Ive kissed boys before but want to know how to makeout. And how do i ask my mom if i can invite over a boy?  My stepdad always takes out a gun when my sisters bring a boy to the house.."

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Just for teens / The Ten Biggest Myths About Sex
« on: June 21, 2014, 10:33:21 PM »
Just some info from the Planned Parenthood site that I thought was interesting if you wanna have a read...

Myths and facts about sex at a glance:
There are a whole lot of myths out there about sex — so don't trust everything you hear.
Women can get pregnant anytime semen gets inside the vagina or on the vulva.
The best way to prevent STDs is to not have sex. If you do have sex, always use a condom or Sheer Glyde dam and get tested for STDs regularly.


Myth #1: Everyone at my school is having sex.

FALSE. The average age when people start having sex is 17. And even once people start having sex, most teens don't have sex very often. In fact, 30 percent of people haven't had sex by the time they turn 20. So it's normal to wait until you're older to have sex.


Myth #2: You can't get pregnant the first time you have sex.

FALSE. You can get pregnant anytime you have vaginal (penis-in-vagina) sex. If you're having sex without birth control, you can get pregnant — whether it's the first time or the 100th time. It's even possible for to get pregnant before you have your first period. Bottom line: if you're going to have vaginal sex, use birth control to prevent pregnancy.


Myth #3: You can't get pregnant during your period.

FALSE. It's not super common, but it's possible to get pregnant from sex you had during your period. This is because sperm can hang out in your reproductive organs for SIX whole days, waiting for one of your eggs to come out.


Myth #4: You can't get pregnant if you have sex in the water.

FALSE. Lots of babies have been made in pools and hot tubs. You get zero protection from pregnancy by having sex in a pool, bath, or shower. That's because the sperm are still getting in the vagina during vaginal (penis-in-vagina) sex.
HOWEVER, sometimes people are scared of getting pregnant from swimming in a pool that a guy has ejaculated in. That's not going to happen. Sperm can't do the backstroke through the pool water, into a vagina, and cause a pregnancy. So if a guy cums/ejaculates near but not on or in a girl in water, she won't get pregnant.


Myth #5: Douching after sex prevents pregnancy.

FALSE. Squirting water, soda, vinegar or anything else up your vagina after sex won't prevent pregnancy ... but it could give you an infection. The only thing that will prevent pregnancy is using birth control every time you have vaginal (penis-in-vagina) sex.


Myth #6: Birth control doesn't really work.

FALSE. When used correctly, lots of birth control methods are super effective — like, more than 99 percent effective — at preventing pregnancy. But if you don't use birth control correctly, it doesn't work as well.
Some methods, like the IUD and implant] are easy to use correctly — they're placed in your body and do their thing without the chance that you could mess it up. Other methods, like the pill, are a little harder because you have to remember to take it every day, try not to miss any pills, and keep getting your new packs on time. If you miss pills, you're at risk for pregnancy.
Condoms are 98 percent effective at preventing pregnancy when used correctly. And condoms are also the best way to avoid STDs. But you have to put the condom on before you start having sex, and keep it on the entire time you're having sex. While condoms can break, this usually happens because they're used wrong. Using extra lubricant with a condom helps keep it from breaking.
The best thing to do is to use both a condom and another birth control method.


Myth #7: You can't get STDs from oral sex.

FALSE. While most STDs are spread through vaginal (penis-in-vagina) and anal (penis-in-anus) sex, unprotected oral sex can also put you at risk for STDs. Things like HPV, gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and hepatitis B can all be spread through oral sex. HIV is less likely to be transmitted through oral sex.
To protect each other from STDs, it's a good idea to use condoms for oral sex on a penis (that's what flavored condoms are made for!). And you can use Sheer Glyde dams, cut-open condoms, or plastic wrap for oral sex on a vulva.


Myth #8: You'd know if you (or your partner) had an STD.

FALSE. Most people who have an STD never have symptoms. So just because you and your partner don't have symptoms doesn't mean you shouldn't worry about STDs. People with STDs can pass them to others, even if they feel fine. And if left untreated, some STDs can turn into really dangerous infections and even lead to permanent damage (like infertility).
The only way to know if you have an STD is to get tested — don't wait until something seems off. Getting tested for STDs is quick and easy.


Myth #9: Getting an STD is the end of the world.

FALSE. A lot of STDs (like gonorrhea and chlamydia) can be cured with simple antibiotics you get from the doctor. These curable, bacterial STDs work just like strep throat — easily fixed in a week or so with medicine.
STDs that are caused by viruses — like HIV, HPV, herpes, and hepatitis — can't be cured. These viral STDs work more like the flu or mono — there's no cure, but there is treatment to help with symptoms. People with viral STDs can live long, healthy lives with the help of their doctor.


Myth #10: If you get an STD once, you can never get it again.

FALSE. A lot of STDs can be cured with antibiotics. But once they're cured, you can get them again. So if you get treated for an STD, your partner(s) should be treated also — otherwise they could give the infection right back to you if you have sex again. And you should keep getting tested whenever you have unprotected sex or start having sex with someone new.

- See more at: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teens/sex/the-ten-biggest-myths-about-sex/#sthash.0rirhdQG.dpuf

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Pregnancy / Rape
« on: May 17, 2014, 05:39:05 AM »
Hi ladies.
I wanted to just put across some feelings and thoughts  in the hope you have an open mind to listen and take what you will. Xx

I'm talking to a girl at the moment that well, to cut a long story short; she was sexually assaulted. And really, that's not uncommon it's estimated that 1 in 4 women will be sexually assaulted in their life time. And in most cases it's someone they know, family, extended family, friends boyfriends. Trusted people.

While I was helping her I wanted to look up some information from the Internet that I could maybe cut and paste that could help.

Reading through some information the word RAPE was used. It jarred me and as I read on every time that word came up it jarred me. I prefer to use the word sexual assault, this poor girl couldn't have been raped! That only happens in the movies to sl**ty girls at gun point! But actually no, the boy had put his penis inside her without her consent. It was rape.

The word rape is just really hard to face. It's a really scary word. I even thought about going through the article and editing out the word and putting sexual assault. Why though? because I don't want to think that happens? Because it does. It's confronting but it does.

Thinking about the word rape made me think of a post that was up a couple of weeks ago. Someone claimed they had been raped and they were worried about being pregnant. Most people (including me) brushed it off, it was confronting. It must be a lie.  We assumed it was. If you were raped why wouldn't you go to the police? But most people don't, they suffer in silence they have guilt and  blame themselves. They worry if they speak out others will confirm it was their fault or not believe them.
Maybe that post wasn't a lie, maybe she used the correct words to describe what had happened to her but we were all in denial that that word happens. It could of been her boyfriend who took it too far, she said no and he didn't stop.

I'm not saying it wasn't someone looking for attention. Maybe people being openly disgusted was what she was after. I'm also not saying that all the replies were negative.

I learnt something about myself today and just wanted to share it. I'm going to try to keep more of an open mind. I hope it was a "troll".
What if it wasn't? Was I part of society feeding into the notion that it only happens to sl**ty girls asking for it. That its something that happens to someone walking on the street by a stranger at gun point. That its something we shouldn't talk about. Rather than what it is; sex without consent and that its most likely going to be someone they know and trust.

There are three options to reply to a post that you think is a "troll"
1. Ignore it
2. Try to give helpful advice
3. Reject the person

None of these answers cause ME any harm. For the GIRL one of them does. It perpetuates guilt, blame, mistrust and shame. It confirms that its not ok to talk about it. It not only effects the original poster it also effects all the other people reading it. They conclude; it's not safe to share being sexually assaulted and that denying it when other people say it is acceptable.

I'm not pointing a finger at anyone this is about me and what I learnt about myself today. If you can take something from it then that's great. Thanks for reading. Xxx

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Just for teens / How to talk about condoms with your boyfriend
« on: May 17, 2014, 12:44:02 AM »
CONDOMS (talking to your boyfriend about them and how to use them)

Sorry it's long but worth a read!

"It's much smarter to talk about condoms before having sex, but that doesn't make it easy. Some people — even those who are already having sex — are embarrassed by the topic of condoms. But not talking about condoms affects a person's safety. Using condoms properly every time is the best protection against sexually transmitted disease (STDs) — even if you're using another form of birth control like the Pill.

So how can you overcome your embarrassment about talking about condoms? Well, for starters it can help to know what a condom looks like, how it works, and what it's like to handle one. Buy a box of condoms so you can familiarize yourself.

The next thing to get comfortable with is bringing up the topic of condoms with a partner. Practice opening lines. If you think your partner will object, work out your response ahead of time. Here are some possibilities:

Your partner says: "It's uncomfortable."
You might answer this by suggesting a different brand or size. Wearing a condom also may take some getting used to.

Your partner says: "It puts me right out of the mood."
Say that having unsafe sex puts you right out of the mood. Permanently.

Your partner says: "If we really love each other, we should trust each other."
Say that it's because you love each other so much that you want to be sure you're both safe and protect each other.

Your partner says: "Are you nervous about catching something?"
The natural response: "Sometimes people don't even know when they have infections, so it's better to be safe."

Your partner says: "I won't enjoy sex if we use a condom."
Say you can't enjoy sex unless it's safe.

Your partner says: "I don't know how to put it on."
This one's easy: "Here, let me show you."

Timing
After you've familiarized yourself with condoms and practiced your routine, you'll want to pick the right time to bring up the subject with your partner. A good time to do this is long before you're in a situation where you might need a condom. When people are caught up in the heat of the moment, they may find they're more likely to be pressured into doing something they regret later.

Try bringing up the topic in a matter-of-fact way. You might mention that you've bought some condoms and checked them out. Offer to bring the unopened condoms along. Or suggest that your partner buy his or her favorite brand (and then bring some of yours with you, just to be on the safe side). Offer to try different types of condoms to find which works best for both of you.

Make it clear that you won't have sex without a condom. If someone threatens you or says they'd rather break up than wear a condom, it's time for you to say good-bye. Tell the person you won't have sex with someone who doesn't respect you or themselves enough to use protection.

Here are some tips for using condoms:

Check the expiration date (condoms can dry and crack if they're old). Don't use a condom if it seems brittle or sticky — throw it away and get another one.
Choose condoms made of latex, which is thought to be more effective in preventing STDs. (If one of you has an allergy to latex, use polyurethane condoms instead.)
If you use lubricants with condoms, always use water-based ones. Shortening, lotion, petroleum jelly, or baby oil can break down the condom.
Open the condom packet with your hands, not your teeth, and open it carefully so you don't tear the condom.
Choose a condom with a reservoir tip to catch semen after ejaculation. Lightly pinch the top of the condom and place it at the top of your (or your partner's) penis. This gets rid of trapped air, which can cause a condom to burst.
Roll the condom down until it's completely rolled out — if it's inside out, throw it away and start over with a new condom.
Remove the condom immediately after ejaculation, before the penis softens. You or your partner should hold the condom at the base of the penis (the part nearest the guy's body) while he withdraws to prevent the condom from slipping off.
Slide the condom off the penis, keeping the semen inside. Since condoms can clog the toilet if they are flushed, tie it off or put in a plastic bag (so it's not a health risk for others) and throw it out.
These aren't the only tips on discussing and using condoms. If you want more advice, talk to your friends, siblings, or parents. Yes, parents. Not everyone feels comfortable talking about sex with their parents, but lots of teens do. Parents often have the best tips.

Health professionals are also great sources of advice on sex and sexuality. A doctor or nurse practitioner or someone at a local health or family planning clinic can offer you advice — confidentially if necessary.

Of course, the only way to be 100% protected from pregnancy and STDs is abstinence (not having sex). But if you do decide to have sex, using a condom allows you to protect yourself."

(Info from kidshealth. Org)

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Pregnancy / Breast Feeding.. Thoughts?
« on: May 07, 2014, 08:37:17 AM »
So what are your thoughts on breast feeding?
How long did you do it for?

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Just for teens / Girlfriend or boyfriend
« on: March 16, 2014, 08:15:41 AM »
You and your girlfriend both like the same guy.
One of you said you liked him first and made it clear from the start, but it turns out he likes the other girl.

Do you..
(If your the one) Not date the boy, your friendship means more than a guy

(You're friends the one) expect your friend not to date the boy, you said you liked him first she has no right to date him.

-OR-

(If your the one) Date the boy, no one can control who falls for who

(You're friends the one) Be upset but ok that your friend dates him you want her to be happy.

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Just for teens / Do you smoke?
« on: March 09, 2014, 01:19:09 AM »
Just got me thinking from another post...

I get smoking pot cause you get high and drinking cause you get drunk but these days why would you choose to smoke cigarettes?

Once upon a time they were advertised and seen as being cool but they haven't been for years now. And society really seems to hate on smokers (where I live smoking is banned indoors including pubs and clubs and even some outdoor activities like our yearly show/fair, you know with rides and show bags, carnival type thing) also they are really expensive and the tax goes up every year on them.

So If you smoke why do you smoke?

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