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My top three would be eyebrows, mink lashes, and some sort of lip gloss/lipstick

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What’s your top three beauty products ladies?

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Relationships / Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« on: December 02, 2018, 07:40:49 PM »
In the end PeriodStuff was (imo) kinda concerned about how you approach sex. The way you talked about it in your poll feels like you think it's an obligation instead of an activity you do for fun/love/pleasure. Like you should do it because you're in college and the experience and whatever. Also the way you said "I'm 21 so for my age group it is problematic." I'm actually 23, have been in long lasting relationships and to me, I just don't talk to others about their sex life because then I'd start comparing. With my first one, he did and actually pressured me for a year until I had sex with him (He was my first bf and I was a virgin. Needless to say awful experience ). My second one, is private and doesn't share any details, or gets pressured from anyone. I can assure you my second (and actual) relationship is a lot healthier because of that. We do us and that makes us happy. And truth is I feel that you may be comparing your sex life to others, because you kinda sound just like my ex did back in the days.

In the end, we are (at least I am) just a bit concerned because this poll, although it's meant to be "general" somehow portrays how you think. And I feel you you got defensive when PeriodStuff commented. So that's why we took it literal, too. And we're trying to help here, that's all!



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Relationships / Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« on: December 02, 2018, 05:53:02 AM »
I find this poll interesting for a couple of reasons..
I would expect someone to have a poll that asks “how often DO you have sex with your partner” you chose the word “should” that implies something different. That implies not always wanting to and it being an obligation to have sex with your partner. Furthermore you haven’t got a choice for less than a week, like that couldn’t possibly be an option. Another option was “GIVE oral pleasure” there was no option that it would be mutual pleasure, only giving.

Something I also find interesting was that you said less sex is “Problematic and weird” that makes me wonder.
Sure new relationships are exciting and you can’t keep your hands off each other but relationships, ones that are going to last need more than just lust driving them.

I may not be married, or have had a long lasting relationship yet. But I’ve been in a loving, consistent, sex-driven, spiritual, relationship. This post is “just” general. The answer choices given aren’t meant to be open ended questions. The answer choices given don’t tell a story about my sex life personally, but it gave me an idea to see how other women felt about it. I did say these were general answers that I would hear in my small girl group conversation.

The poll could’ve been diverse, but it’s not meant to discourage anyone who don’t have extravagant sex lives.

Coming from someone who’s been a 3 year relationship. There’s plenty of ways you can satisfy your partner, mentally and physically. Mentally could just be from asking your partner how their day was. Physically could be rubbing your partners shoulders after a long day at work.

Everything is not meant to be taken so literal.

Lighten up a little.

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Relationships / Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« on: December 01, 2018, 07:32:38 AM »
One or twice a week, is healthy but awfully long and ranty side note:

I only put once or twice because there was no 'whenever you want to' option. I don't think there's such thing as obligation when it comes to sex with your bf/gf. The only thing you 'should' do is WANT to give yourself to them.

If your partner wants sex, (let me know if you disagree with me)they should put in the work to stimulate their partner in the event that thy aren't receptive whether it be tiredness or maybe not in the right head space.
And if the answer is still no, boundaries and consideration! Accepting your partner has other needs over sex is important as is acknowledging your partner does have sexual needs, find middle ground, as we know in a relationship you're still your own person.




I often sex every chance I get. However, I was having girl talk with a couple of my friends, and we came across the topic of sex. After listening to their stories, they said sec with their partners have decreased to once or twice every week, or once or twice every month or two. To me, I’ve never had to deal with that problem, unless I was single.


But I find it kinda weird to be on in a relationship with someone, and not really have sex. I try to receive/ five pleasure at any chance I get to get while also giving myself time to heal down there. But I find it easier to know your partners sexual desires, so that you can keep that spark.

Having sex once or twice a month is not necessarily a problem. Some people are less physical than others. Or find sparks in other things :)


I’m a 21 year old college student. Lol. So for my age group, having sex less often is weird or problematic. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion though....

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Relationships / Re: How many times should you have sex with your partner
« on: December 01, 2018, 05:10:15 AM »
One or twice a week, is healthy but awfully long and ranty side note:

I only put once or twice because there was no 'whenever you want to' option. I don't think there's such thing as obligation when it comes to sex with your bf/gf. The only thing you 'should' do is WANT to give yourself to them.

If your partner wants sex, (let me know if you disagree with me)they should put in the work to stimulate their partner in the event that thy aren't receptive whether it be tiredness or maybe not in the right head space.
And if the answer is still no, boundaries and consideration! Accepting your partner has other needs over sex is important as is acknowledging your partner does have sexual needs, find middle ground, as we know in a relationship you're still your own person.




I often sex every chance I get. However, I was having girl talk with a couple of my friends, and we came across the topic of sex. After listening to their stories, they said sec with their partners have decreased to once or twice every week, or once or twice every month or two. To me, I’ve never had to deal with that problem, unless I was single.


But I find it kinda weird to be on in a relationship with someone, and not really have sex. I try to receive/ five pleasure at any chance I get to get while also giving myself time to heal down there. But I find it easier to know your partners sexual desires, so that you can keep that spark.

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Relationships / How many times should you have sex with your partner
« on: November 28, 2018, 02:21:35 PM »
What do you think?  :-X

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Relationships / Re: 18+ Lesbian/Bi
« on: October 30, 2018, 09:37:33 PM »
General questions about dating, coming out, or just to find a peer who can relate. Nothing specific.

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Relationships / 18+ Lesbian/Bi
« on: October 29, 2018, 09:56:07 PM »
Feel free to message me

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Relationships / Re: Sex in the bedroom
« on: October 29, 2018, 09:49:57 PM »
When you have a day to yourself, you should try to start in the shower, or just taking a bath together. This can start off as just bonding time from a long day of work. Have some wine, or your favorite beer/liquor on the side, some rose petals, music with chocolate and strawberries. Put on his favorite perfume that he likes on you, and just go with the flow. Also light some candles. You’ll catch on.

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